Writing A Eulogy: A Gentle Guide

Writing a eulogy can feel like a great responsibility. Many people worry about finding the right words, saying enough, or becoming emotional while speaking. The important thing to remember is that a eulogy does not need to be perfect. It simply needs to be sincere.

A helpful structure is to begin with who the person was, then share memories, qualities, achievements or moments that meant something to the family. You may want to include humour if it feels appropriate, but the tone should always reflect the person and the setting.

Keep the eulogy clear and manageable. Around 3 to 5 minutes is often enough. It can help to write in short paragraphs, practise reading it aloud, and take a printed copy with you.

If you feel emotional while speaking, that is completely understandable. Take your time. Nobody expects you to deliver it perfectly.

Some families choose for a Celebrant, Minister or another speaker to read the eulogy on their behalf. That is also perfectly acceptable.

At Peterson Funeral Directors, we can help families think through the order of service, readings and personal tributes, ensuring the service feels respectful and meaningful.

Need help with service details?

If you are unsure what to include in a funeral service, we can guide you through the options.

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